Wife Refuses To Go To Family Events

Does my wife want to attend family events with me because she hates my sister and brother-in-law? 3

I have been married for 10 years. 8 years ago my brother-in-law and sister-in-law visited our house and made some bad comments, like why do you want to continue, wow, your house is big enough that you can put a pen here. Since then, my wife has decided to meet my sister + brother-in-law. I told my sister that it was sometimes uncomfortable and my sister made no effort to repair the damage. And my wife struggled to get going and move on. He has a passionate personality and does not pay attention to his sisters and parents because he does not like the way he is treated. My wife avoids contact with anyone she doesn't like. He will not go where my sister or her family lived for fear of meeting him. Now my parents are celebrating their 50th wedding anniversary and my wife has decided to go because my sister-in-law + will be there. Do I encourage my wife to be strong and participate in this event?

There was nothing he could do to change her mind ... she needed advice ... and that was what could put pressure on her. In the meantime, you have to go without it ... Don't let your emotional problems ruin your life ... Treat it well and be brave to get help ... Offer to go with it ... But don't stop living it. I keep you in my prayers.

I think you should leave your wife alone and let her stay with me if she wants. What if you were at each other's feet? I promised that the sun would rise the next day of the celebration and it should not happen.

I have parents and in-laws who tell me very painful and cruel things. I am sure that from now on I will be away from your presence. And I don't even remember it. They are all very old and usually cause a lot of trouble now. Your wife does not need treatment and neither you nor your parents need her presence. Her sister-in-law and sister-in-law can use some social training with a good manners class ending with a quick kick in the pants. If your parents are worried about your wife's absence, ask them to draw their attention to the abusive girl and the husband you married.

He said his wife avoided contact with anyone she did not like. And that's wrong ............ maybe at some point he learns not to be angry, but until then, leave him alone.

Hi, I don't think these comments are rude. Guys, your ■■■ is big enough for a boat, which is a compliment. Why did you change that? That is a question. Looks like your wife has the same problem I've always misunderstood. It can ruin your life and prevent you from making friends or being happy. The problem is that you need to re-train your thinking. I take everything that someone says to me personally and I think they are being ridiculed. Since then, I've changed the way I look at people and I'm happier. Ask him to use his intelligence. When someone posts a comment that annoys you, let them read what was said. And give intelligent and dignified answers. People will appreciate it. I get angry when someone asks why you painted the bathroom turquoise? It can be a subtle way to say they don't like it. what is the difference? Or maybe they're just curious. Now I'm just saying I like it. Prepare. Sit down and talk about your feelings and Shell can see things out of context. For example, everything is fine. Bless you and your family. You will see if someone is deliberately offended when he says something.

I'm sure a lot can be said or done to encourage their participation, but I doubt anything can be done to change their minds. The way he describes it, it seems so ingrained in him that he does no good, and there is nothing for him to do away with those who bring trouble into his life. It's a shame it's such an inexperienced way of handling things, but at least with such a tip it would be hard to change.

... Well, I'm not sure the party will be over any time soon, but in a month or two your only options are likely to be corruption and ultimatums, and this choice is to maintain a healthy relationship. Are not good

Wife Refuses To Go To Family Events

I don't think you can force someone to do what they don't want to do. I mean, why doesn't her sister or brother do everything for her? These personality traits do not appear over time, so when did you first meet them? In that case, don't force him without shutting himself down about who he is and openly accepting his heart. Maybe one day he will return in time. It's your fault that he doesn't exist.
I'm sorry to say that, but if he really loves you, he will put your feelings aside.
I think there is a lot of depth here.
You need to tell your wife about your feelings and the noise of things you can't successfully express without rest. For the good of the enemy (you know what I mean =) but for you and your happiness is the only thing that matters. Even if he doesn't participate, it shows that everyone is right if he doesn't. If your wife has done nothing wrong, she should not hide from fear (for example) but leave. Looks like he lost everything and I don't think he's in danger of losing you.
It can make or break your relationship. Be strong, dear, and hold on to your feelings. If you care, he will respect you so much that he will put your feelings aside and leave.
Congratulations!
Maybe he really has a social problem. And being angry gives you a good reason not to participate or be social. And maybe her emotions are so hurt inside her that she can't get them out of her head ... I'm saying this because a few years ago I finally went to the doctor and I finally found out that I Anxiety / depression. ... ... a dark mood that prevents me from releasing the right amount of serotonin ... chemical imbalance ... serotonin is a substance that makes us feel, calms us and helps us to be satisfied Helps I avoided a lot of surgeries until I could do something. Even so, my brain is just running with negative stress and I feel scared and experience cheating or commenting all the time. When your mind is in control, you can't be as strong as you want to be, believe me. Now I am taking Paxil, an antidepressant, and my life has changed a lot! Most of the time I let my back slip where I would be if I did injustice like a rosary!

Wife Refuses To Go To Family Events

His wife did not realize that her sister was causing her trouble.

Tell your wife that her sister has a special need. Need to train others to feel important and see them as successful when they are not.

Let other members of your family put too much pressure on your sister if she decides to attend an event because of your behavior.

Life is very safe for him anyway.

You can do a lot, but I tell the women of my life that you are great! Whether you treat it now or fix the problem, don't make me a problem or put me in the middle. You are one of a kind!

I agree with your wife. I have two brothers and they both have husbands. They are cruel, hateful and liars. I'm not going to see you on the street treating my son, wife and grandson badly. As far as I'm concerned, anyone can fall and make my day. Your wife should not be forced to talk to people she can't stand. If you want to go to a party, go ahead, but let him stay with me where he is not bothered by people who lack taste and politeness.

When we get married, we first need to understand that we come from different backgrounds. So we have to study and find out what the difference is ... His wife was upset by her brother-in-law's comments. This convinced his wife that he was right and that his sister-in-law was being rude. Tell her that her mother loves her more than her sister-in-law. (He won't ask your mother the truth!) Tell him his mother cares. It's your mother's birthday, so ask her to be the best daughter-in-law in your family. The day he tasted it ... that was the day! So if you let go, is it as bad as your brother-in-law or not? Sometimes we have to pretend it's okay. I now!

It didn't happen man. Shell hates you when you let her go. And if you complain too much or try to deceive them, things will get worse. Stay with this woman. They are now your first family. Apologize to loved ones and do yourself a favor.